Family therapy can be transformative, but getting everyone to the table is often the hardest part. Many families delay seeking help due to stigma, misunderstandings, or fear of being blamed. However, research shows that therapy works. According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, nearly 90% of clients report emotional health improvements, and over 75% experience better family relationships.
Let’s explore how to encourage reluctant family members to participate in family therapy and take the first step toward healing.
Shift the Conversation from Blame to Support
Start the conversation calmly and non-judgmentally. People are more likely to engage when they don’t feel attacked. Here’s how to approach it:
- Use “I” statements like, “I’ve noticed we’re not connecting like we used to.”
- Focus on specific issues, such as stress or disconnection, instead of blaming anyone.
- Presenttherapy as a supportive tool, not a corrective one.
Reframe What Therapy Is
Many see therapy as something for “serious” issues, but it’s a proactive tool to improve communication and coping strategies. Therapy helps families address unresolved conflicts, gain a deeper understanding of each other, and work through emotional barriers. It’s about finding solutions, not assigning blame. With telehealth services now available, therapy is more accessible than ever, offering families the option to attend from home.
Highlight Accessibility and Comfort
Telehealth makes therapy more approachable, especially for families facing logistical or emotional barriers. It eliminates travel time and reduces scheduling stress. Benefits include:
- Access to telehealth couples counselingand family therapy.
- Flexible scheduling with experienced therapists.
- Convenience—join sessions from home, without the need for transportation.
Offer Real-World Benefits, Not Abstract Ideas
Instead of speaking in general terms, highlight the tangible outcomes that therapy can offer.
Examples include:
- Fewer arguments and better problem-solving among family members
- Better communication
- Help with unresolved issues, such asdepression or emotional withdrawal
- Stronger relationships
- Healthier coping mechanisms
Even if everyone isn’t immediately ready, planting the seed can prompt change over time.
Suggest an Introductory Session
A low-pressure introductory session can help hesitant family members see what to expect. Offer to attend the first session alone or with just one other family member. Emphasize that no decisions need to be made right away.
Participation Starts With Trust
Convincing a family to try therapy is about building trust and demonstrating its value. With therapists like Brie-Anna and Andrea offering remote sessions, families can access support with less stress.
At MindShift Psychological Services, we provide telehealth and in-person therapy options across California, including services in Riverside and Corona. Start improving your relationships today. Contact us now or call us at (714)584-9700.
